to be totally honest i feel that it is the parents fault of these children, they are the ones who have raised them. My mum and dad raised me to be confident, independent and to believe in myself. well it can go the same for parents who raise there kids with neglect and critism. I'm talking about not giving your child enough attention and not giving them enough compliments everyday. And even though there are cases of direct critism, another form is parents complimenting other peoples children and not your own, which can imply to your child that they are not good enough.
No one can make themselves into a model. some women/men are just born with that criteria.so when you look at a model in a magazine no matter what you do... even the extremes of yoyo dieting, balemia, starving yourself and evasive excersise you won't look like that girl/guy in that magazine because they have different genes to you, a different body shape. Don't try to be someone else, and think that this is the best, be your own best. No one is more beautiful then anyone else. Naomi campbell can't be prettier then kate moss and vice versa because they are both totally different looks. we are all beautiful, some people just know the right way to bring it out in themselves.
So when you look at a beautiful model please do not whisper.. Bitch underneath your breath because your jealous. Be proud to have women like that in this world to look up to and to be inspired by. Even though they probably were born with feautres to set them up for a life time of beauty and a metabolism faster then a formula one car, they still had to work hard to keep it. and work hard to get where they wanted to be.
Perfection is overrated.. so make it whatever you want it to be. make it you. and then say... its hard to make perfection even better.
xoxox Adriana. :)
Ok, so this comment is a bit late but the self esteem issue is still on the rise. I agree with most of it, but not where you say its the parents fault and not the fashion industries. I know my parents are the best I could ever have: always supportive with everything I do; but sometimes you just don't feel as confident with yourself as you could- we've all had it before. I think a smarter choice would have just been to say that you don't think its fashion instead of putting it on someone else. Sure, it might be SOME people's parents, but yeah, it probably is the fashion industry that breaks kids self esteem- even if it wasn't intended. How can someone build their confidence if all they see is skinny girls with (sometimes) loads of make-up--- even if they are naturally thin and beautiful? All the more reason to make you feel bad if you're not. The fashion industry doesn't go out of its way to make young people feel bad, but if you have a big build or a bit of a muffin top, even if you do try to look better, why is it ideal anyway? Because the media makes it look that way. And also, what are your reasons for saying we should look up to models. Maybe some of them we can be inspired by, but i've seen plenty of pictures where they're not inspiration-worthy. Another thing, what makes you think we're jealous? Who wants to be able to look in the mirror and see the wall behind you because you're so skinny? It must be the models themselves with the low confidence.
ReplyDeletePlease, don't get me wrong, I KNOW there are plenty of great models out there, but not all of them.
Sorry for such a long comment- I just thought I'd put my opinion out there too.
thank you for your opinion on Adriana's blog... its good to here all your views on the topics Adriana, both of us or myself talk about and as a not so skinny girl myself... i understand just where your coming from, Ive been through all the pressure and i see your side completely, i believe to it is not the parents fault and we shouldn't blame others, though its all up to the individual on how to feel about the models in magazines and its their choice who they idolize... and if that means looking up to those girls in the magazine, then they may feel the pressure of being thinner... but they need to learn the facts behind how hard it was for those girls to get into those magazines... to actually achieve that one photo shoot takes a lot of courage, persistence, exercise and hard work... trust me, im going through Adriana's journey into the industry and it can be a tough 'gig!' xx love Scarlett
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ReplyDeletethanks so much for your constructive comments, i must say though even though i agree with you also i still believe in my opinion. yes its not 'all' parents fault and maybe i should make that a bit clearer. but its defintly not the fashion industries either. it kind of sounds like you have your cake and you want to eat it too. if you dont like what you see in magazines or on the catwalk dont buy it, dont pay attention to it if it pressures your mind into thinking you have to be something that your not and if your so passionatly against this sort of image. dont buy it until its either changed or your confident enough not to have those sorts of feelings towards it. the fashion industry is all about a fantasy and perfect world so obviously there going to put girls up there who are pretty close to perfect. you wouldnt put a bulldog in race with greyhounds... to sum it all up your opinion alone will not change the fashion industry so keep voicing your strong thoughts and maybe one day you will get more people to listen to you for now be true to yourself and keep being passionate about what you believe in! i would love to hear more of your opinions on our blogs. join us on facebook :) xoxox adriana
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